Unmasking Kink

Season 1 Episode 6 - Unmasking A Yes/No/Maybe List

This week on Unmasking Kink, Nova Monroe explores one of the simplest yet most powerful tools in the kink world: the Yes/No/Maybe List. Whether you’re brand new to BDSM or just looking for a better way to communicate with partners, this little checklist can make all the difference.
Nova breaks down what it is, why it matters, and how to use it—without overthinking or overcomplicating. Plus, a special milestone: the podcast has officially hit 200 downloads!
Tune in for practical tips, a bit of personal reflection, and a preview of Nova’s printable Yes/No/Maybe List that will soon be available on Etsy.
✨ Clearer communication, safer play, and more fun—that’s the power of Yes/No/Maybe.

Season 1 Episode 5 - Unmasking A Munch

In this episode of Unmasking Kink, I share my first experience attending a munch! What it's like, how to prepare and what you can expect when you walk into your first one. 
We'll cover everything from event descriptions and table markers to conversation starters, group dynamics and what organizers really want you to know. Plus, I are tips on preparing ahead, how I accidentally stumbled into mine, and the lessons I walked away with.
 
Whether you're brand new to kink, or looking for community, this episode breaks down the who, what, when, where, why and how of munches in a way that's welcoming, real and a little bit personal. 
 
Recourses mentioned - Show Notes – Unmasking a Munch
Finding Events & Munches
FetLife – Events Search
BDSM Events Calendar
Understanding Munches & Etiquette
Wikipedia – “Munch (BDSM)”
Threshold Society – Munch Etiquette
EhBC – Munch Tips
For Newcomers to Kink & Events
Kink Academy – “What to do when you’re new.”
Find all I’ve got going on at the website
Unmaskingkink.com

Season 1 Episode 4 Unmasking Masochism

Not every episode needs to be loud to hit hard.
This week, I’m exploring the very first kink I ever recognized in myself, masochism. What draws someone to enjoy pain? Is it something to worry about, or something worth understanding on a deeper level? I’m breaking down common misconceptions, unpacking the psychology, and tackling the big question: is masochism a mental disorder, or just another way humans seek sensation, control, and connection?
It’s a slower, more thoughtful vibe, but worth every second.
 
 
Articles referenced:DefinitionHow to Tell if I have Self Defeating Personality DisorderWhat is a Masochist.
 

Season 1 Episode 3 Let Kink Stay Kinky

In this episode of Unmasking Kink, we delve into the tension between authenticity and acceptability in the kink community. Inspired by insightful posts from FetLife users Tittan and Vampyre, we explore the implications of sanitizing BDSM for mainstream comfort.
We'll discuss personal boundaries, the importance of consent, and the value of embracing the raw, unfiltered aspects of kink.
Whether you're a seasoned player or new to the scene, this conversation invites you to reflect on the true essence of kink and the importance of preserving its integrity.
 Featured FetLife Writers:
Tittan – “When Kink Gets Tamed: The Dangers of Vanilla-fying BDSM”
Vampyre – “BDSM Isn’t About Making Outsiders Comfortable”

Season 1 Episode 2 Am I Kinky or Vanilla?

You’ve probably asked yourself:
“Am I kinky? Or just curious?”“Does liking [insert thing here] make me into kink?”“Do I have to pick a side?”
The answers? Could be both, possibly, and absolutely not.
In this episode, I give my take on what it means to be kinky or vanilla, or somewhere in between. We’ll talk about how those labels aren’t fixed, what actually “counts” as kink, and how to start exploring.
Topics include:
The difference between kink and vanilla
Why “what counts as kink” depends on who you ask
Where to look for real, respectful information
Whether you're seasoned, curious, or still figuring it out—you belong here.
Resources mentioned:
FetLife: https://fetlife.com
Chief’s Sex Menu: https://kinkyevents.co.uk/sex-menu
Shibari on YouTube (my favorite video): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HTnFlfm04uk
Local classes and munches: Search via FetLife or reach out to event organizers
More: https://unmaskingkink.com

Season 1 Episode 1 What Is Kink?

Description:
 
In this debut episode of Unmasking Kink, Nova Monroe breaks down what kink actually is—and what it isn’t. We talk about the difference between kink and BDSM, explore how kink doesn’t always have to be sexual, and tackle the question: Is this normal? (Spoiler: yes.) Whether you’re curious, questioning, or just here to learn, this episode gives you a shame-free, honest look at how broad and human kink really is.
 
Show Notes & Resources:
 
 
Articles & Resources Referenced:
 
Healthline – What Is Kink?
Business Insider – List of Kinks, According to Experts
Verywell Mind – Understanding Sexual Kinks and Fetishes
Kinkly – Kink Glossary & Psychology of Kink
National Coalition for Sexual Freedom – https://www.ncsfreedom.org
Focus on the Family – Sexual Behavior Outside of God’s Design
Institute for Family Studies – Sexual Liberation Is Not Sexual Freedom
Covenant Spice – Christian sex-positive resource: https://covenantspice.com
 
 
Connect with Nova:
Website: unmaskingkink.com
Submit questions, sources, or feedback via the contact form!
 

Episode 0: Introduction

Welcome to Unmasking Kink! Let me start by introducing myself, and give you the low down on what to expect from Unmasking Kink and the community we're going to build together!

Unmasking Kink Trailer

Unmasking Kink is a podcast for the curious, the kinky, and everyone in between. 
Hosted by Nova Monroe, each episode explores real questions about kink, BDSM, and the lifestyle. Nova isn't an expert, but she's a proud research nerd, digging into topics so we can learn and grow together. 
From vanilla to veteran, this space is for anyone who's ever felt left out, unsure or just plain curios. 
Join Nova, and together, we'll unmask what kink is all about.